HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE - The habit of personal
vision.
Each person has the power to make his or her own decisions.
When individuals use this power to choose their responses according
to self-determined values, they are proactive. In other words,
proactive people use a margin of freedom to make choices that best
apply their values. As they work on things they can control (their
Circle of Influence) in lieu of reacting to or worrying about
conditions over which they have little or no control (their Circle
of Concern), they use positive energy to influence conditions and
increase their Circle of Influence.
HABIT 2: BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND - The habit of personal
leadership.
The most effective people shape their own
futures. They benefit from beginning with the end in mind in all
areas of life. Instead of letting other people or circumstances
determine their results, they carefully plan who they want to be,
what they want to do, and what they want to have, and then they let
their mental plan guide their decisions. This mental plan for their
life's purpose expressed in written form is called a mission
statement. A person who has a mission statement and uses it to
guide decisions will live in harmony with his or her
self-determined purpose.
HABIT 3: PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST - The habit of personal
management.
What are first things? First things are those things that we,
personally, find most worth doing. They move us in the right
direction. They help us achieve the principle-centered purpose
expressed in our mission statement.
First things are always important and are sometimes urgent:
Important. An activity is important if you personally find it
valuable− if it contributes to your mission, values, and
high-priority goals.
Urgent. An activity is urgent if you or others feel that it
requires immediate attention.
When we graph these two elements and their opposites, four
quadrants emerge which describe the activities we engage in (see
graphic). These quadrants form the Time Management Matrix.
URGENT NOT URGENT
The best use of our time focuses on the quadrants that
emphasize importance. Of these two quadrants, our primary focus
should be on Quadrant II, through which we can pursue excellence in
our work and in our relationships.
HABIT 4: THINK WIN-WIN - The habit of interpersonal
leadership.
Think Win-Win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly
seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means
everyone wins because agreements or solutions are mutually
beneficial and satisfying-all parties feel good about the decision
and feel committed to the action plan.
A win-win person possesses three character traits: integrity,
maturity, and an Abundance Mentality. People of integrity are true
to their feelings, values, and commitments. Mature people express
their ideas and feelings with courage and with consideration for
the ideas and feelings of others. People with an Abundance
Mentality believe there is plenty for everyone.
HABIT 5: SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD -
The habit of communication.
When we listen with the intent to understand, our
interpersonal communications are more effective. We quit sifting
everything through our own paradigms and stop reading our
autobiographies into other people's lives. By setting aside
autobiographical responses and caring about what the other person
is trying to communicate, we are better prepared to listen
empathically− with an intent to understand.
The second part of the habit, seek to be understood,
takes courage and skill. You need courage to express your true
feelings and be open. You need skill to clearly and
accurately express your point from the other's frame of
reference.
HABIT 6: SYNERGIZE - The habit of creative
cooperation.
Redwoods, whose root systems are shallow, grow close
together. Their roots interlock and keep the trees from toppling
when heavy winds come. Two working cooperatively have the potential
to multiply the results of each working separately. This principle,
Synergize, also holds true in social interactions. Two people,
creatively cooperating and interacting interdependently, will be
able to accomplish more than the sum of what they could accomplish
separately. As they value each other's differences, open themselves
to new possibilities, practice Think Win-Win, and build trust, they
reap the benefits of synergizing.
HABIT 7: SHARPEN THE SAW - The habit of
self-renewal.
Dulled by use, a saw's serrated edge can no longer cut
through wood. The blade is not in the proper condition to saw
effectively. To function effectively, people need to Sharpen the
Saw. In other words, they need to preserve and improve themselves.
The key to sharpening the saw is to regularly and consistently work
on all four dimensions of renewal: physical, social/emotional,
spiritual, and mental. Bodies and minds exerted on a regular basis
are prepared for exertion. Conscience, consistently listened to and
followed, becomes increasingly sensitive. Relationships, loyally
attended to, grow. As individuals balance and sharpen all four
dimensions, they improve their effectiveness in all of the habits.
In so doing, they grow, change, and improve. |